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wow.  im sorry to hear that.  i pray you find something soon.

I'm sorry, but after reading some of the post on here I feel like I have to say something.  I am glad to see there are some prayer warriors on here.  However, I must caution some of you not to come off as holier than thou.  We are here for support and encouragment, and yes, that can come from God.  But, sometimes preaching and writing lengthy prayers can come off as not so much a councilor/mentors but as a superiorist, "holier than thou".  Be careful to listen to what God says through you, not using yourself as superior, god-like figure, to those to which you are giving advise.  I'm sorry to come off like that, but I, a preachers daughter who is extremely involved in my church took a step back at some of the "preaching" on here.  It was very arogant.  Yes, pray for people in need.  I need it, I'm one of them.  But, be careful how you come across on a forum designed for people seeking people to talk to.

What part of Texas are you from?

I am a single mother trying to make my way through school. I was working an 80 hour week bringing in the money and going to school, but my son (recently diagnosed with autism and ADHD) wasn't getting enough attention and falling behind on his schooling. He didn't speak until he was 4, and just recently potty trained at almost 6. I am still attending college and don’t want to give that up, but I’m running out of options. I lost my apartment due to job loss and had to move in with my parents. That wouldn't be so bad, except they have their own financial struggles in which put them in a one bedroom house of which my son and I have lived in the living room. Not to mention, they’re a little tired on me being there. I tried to apply for housing, but because of my past rental history (owe 2000 for leaving my previous apartment before the lease was up) they refuse to rent to me even though I wouldn't have had to pay them anything based on my current income. I have student loans, need a new car or just fix the one I have (another 3,000), and personal loans, bad bank accounts, and medical bills (about 10,000) due to no insurance. I intend to use whatever financial aid I have to help with that situation. Also, looking for advise.

Now that's what I'm talking about!  Congrats!!!   The Toyota RAV4 is an excelllent vehicle.  I had the privilege of demoing one for a few weeks.  Toyota makes a wonderful product.  I told you we aren't all bad!  I'm glad you finally had a good car buying experience.  Congrats again!

Alexis

And btw, I resent the implication that you need a man to buy a car.  If you're uncomfortable with the jerk that's selling you the car, find a different salesman.  My sister once walked out of a dealership because the salesman insisted her "husband" (she wasn't married at the time)  come and work the deal.  Men are easily manipulated by salesmen, they find a certain comradery with them, and slip into a comfortable state of stupidness.

I'm very sorry you're not feeling well.  I worked as a top sales consulatant for Hyundai, Saturn, and Nissan and I am a woman.  Not so hard to believe, but hopefully I can help with some issues and guide you in the right direction.  I tried to reply to this post earlier, but my labtop cleared the message somehow.  First of all, let me ask you a few questions.  Is this sales person calling you on the phone asking you impretinent questions to try to help you get a better deal, better payments?  Or, is he calling and finding anyway possible to get you into the dealership?  A good salesman knows two things for sure: it does him no good to sell you a car you can't afford (it's nearly impossible to re-sell to someone with a repo on their credit and they want return business); secondly, a satisfied customer is a repeat customer. If they are purposely trying to get you into something they know you can't afford, they are stupid, insensive, and don't care to go the extra mile (they want that sell now, not later, they're just a little bit stupid).  A sales person has two jobs, find a vehicle that fits your needs, and make it affordable.  I have a few suggestions that might help you.  Go in there, or set your mind to a reasonable payment and downpayment.  Everyone knows more down, less a month.  If you can't come up with anything or little down, expect your payments to be more.  Generally look at 20 a month for every 1000 you finance.  That's rule of thumb.  That's in no way intended to come off in their defence, but in my experience, customers come in many times with unreasonable expectations when financing a car.  Moreover, if your sales person is an ass...find another that isn't.  Typically older women (if you can find one) or older men make better salespeople.  They understand the game and what not only butters their bread today, but in the future.  Find someone that this is their career, not their "just getting by for now" job.  More experienced salespeople also tend to have better customer service.  If the saleman is cocky, find a different dealership or ask his manager to work with another salesperson that doesn't have such a poor attitude.  It may be a bit embarrassing, but every once in a while, us car sales jerks need to be put in our place.  Explain that if the "bad" salesman approaches you in the future you will find another dealership.  Don't fall for any of our sales pitches...want to know what a few of those are, explain your fianancial situation to me, what car you're looking at, and your emotional state and I'll let you in on some trade secrets.  I would be happy to help you find a good sales person, that is typically key to a good deal and a good experience.  Car buying shouldn't be a bad experience; you're salesperson should be making it easy and pleasurable.  If they're not, there are plenty out there that will. 

I am a single mother trying to make my way through school. I was working an 80 hour week bringing in the money and going to school, but my son (recently diagnosed with autism and ADHD) wasn't getting enough attention and falling behind on his schooling. He didn't speak until he was 4, and just recently potty trained at almost 6. I am still attending college and don’t want to give that up, but I’m running out of options. I lost my apartment due to job loss and had to move in with my parents. That wouldn't be so bad, except they have their own financial struggles in which put them in a one bedroom house of which my son and I have lived in the living room. Not to mention, they’re a little tired on me being there. I tried to apply for housing, but because of my past rental history (owe 2000 for leaving my previous apartment before the lease was up) they refuse to rent to me even though I wouldn't have had to pay them anything based on my current income. I have student loans, need a new car or just fix the one I have (another 3,000), and personal loans, bad bank accounts, and medical bills (about 10,000) due to no insurance. I intend to use whatever financial aid I have to help with that situation. Also, looking for advise.

I am a single mother trying to make my way through school.  I was working an 80 hour week, bringing in the money and going to school, but my son (recently diagnosed with autism and ADHD) wasn't getting enough attention and falling behind on his schooling.  He didn't speak until he was 4, and just recently potty trained at almost 6.  I am still attending college and don’t want to give that up, but I’m running out of options.  I lost my apartment due to job loss and had to move in with my parents.  That wouldn't be so bad, except they have their own financial struggles in which put them in a one bedroom house of which my son and I have lived in the living room.  Not to mention, they’re a little tired on me being there.  I tried to apply for housing, but because of my past rental history (owe 2000 for leaving my previous apartment before the lease was up) they refuse to rent to me even though I wouldn't have had to pay them anything based on my current income.  I have student loans, need a new car or just fix the one I have (another 3,000), and personal loans, bad bank accounts, and medical bills (about 10,000) due to no insurance.  I can't seem to find a job that coincides with my son's schedule.  If I take a job working at night (something I haven't done since high school), my son will fall behind again.  I can't find a day job that is serious.  I have been looking for 7 months.  I am half way through college; I have excellent references, and am skilled in many areas.  However, I have only had 2 job interviews that were legit.  Any suggestions?